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**Guarding Your Heart from Bitterness**


In the heart of Akasia, where the summer heat presses down like a weight and the power cuts leave us fumbling for candles, I found myself stewing in resentment. Last month, during one of Eskom’s notorious load-shedding slots, my neighbor—a woman with a laugh as sharp as a butcher’s knife—accused me of stealing her generator fuel. The truth? Her son had borrowed it and forgotten to mention it. But in the dim glow of my phone’s flashlight, her words felt like a betrayal. Bitterness, I realized, is a sneaky thief. It doesn’t kick down your door; it slips in through the cracks of unmet expectations and unresolved words.  

**The Jacaranda Paradox**  

Pretoria’s jacarandas are a lesson in contradictions. Their roots are shallow, yet they survive our droughts. Their purple blooms carpet the streets each October, a fleeting beauty that outshines the gnarled branches beneath. I’ve come to see these trees as holy ironies. Like the Christian heart, their survival depends not on depth of roots but on resilience to release. Bitterness, though, digs deep. It’s the invasive root of the Port Jackson willow, strangling life beneath the soil. Scripture warns, *“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble”* (Hebrews 12:15).  

**Ubuntu and the Unforgiving Servant**  

South Africa knows about bitter roots. Our history is tangled with them. Yet, we also birthed the Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC), a radical experiment in Ubuntu: *“I am because we are.”* Nelson Mandela once said, *“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”* The parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:21-35) echoes this. Forgiveness isn’t a *feeling*; it’s a *freedom*—a refusal to let another’s sin colonize your soul.  

**Load-Shedding the Soul**  

The other day, at the Akasia Mall, I overheard two women gossiping about a pastor caught in a corruption scandal. Their words were spicy, delicious—a guilty pleasure. But gossip, like load-shedding, leaves everyone in the dark. Ephesians 4:29 urges, *“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.”* I walked away, convicted. How easy it is to curse the darkness rather than light a candle.  

**A Modern Exodus**  

South Africa’s 2024 elections loom, and the air is thick with promises and protests. In Tshwane, service delivery strikes have turned streets into battlefields. It’s tempting to let anger fossilize into bitterness. But what if we saw these struggles as a collective exodus—not toward a political promised land, but toward a kingdom where grace dismantles grievances?  

**Practical Resurrection**  

After the generator debacle, I avoided my neighbor. Then, one morning, I found a pot of blooming vygies at my gate. Her note read: *“Sorry. Let’s braai when the power’s back.”* Simple. Unceremonious. A miniature resurrection. I brought over koeksusters, and we laughed about our “soapie drama.”  

**Conclusion: Bloom Anyway**  

Friends, guarding your heart isn’t about armoring it with spite. It’s about daily uprooting toxic roots and watering grace. Pretoria’s jacarandas don’t fret over their fragile roots; they bloom anyway. So, let’s speak life—to corrupt leaders, to noisy neighbors, to our own weary souls. Let’s be fools for grace in a world that’s bitter enough.  

**Prayerful Action**  

This week, dare to bless someone who’s hurt you. Send a text. Share a meal. Turn load-shedding into a chance to stargaze. And if you’re in Akasia, maybe I’ll see you at the mall—buying vygies, not spreading venom.  

*“Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.”* (Philippians 4:5)  

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